On the surface, I had everything I wanted when I graduated from college. I was a Regional Director at the top of my company and was finally(!) living with my boyfriend of five years. I was breaking records at my job and living roommate free with a guy I loved.
But on the inside, I was shriveling. I was in a career with no advancement and a relationship that (if I was honest with myself) was unhealthy. I was wildly successful and putting on a happy face, but I was being mistreated, underappreciated and undervalued.
I KNEW I WAS MEANT FOR SOMETHING BETTER. I KNEW I WANTED THE RELATIONSHIP I DREAMT ABOUT. I KNEW I WANTED THE DREAM MAN AND FAIRYTALE ENDING, AND THAT WHAT I HAD WAS NOT IT.
I also knew that I had no clue how to make any of those things happen (or even how to take the first step!) but I made a choice.
I DECIDED TO BE BRAVE.
Even though I was terrified and had NO idea where I would end up, I left my job and ended my relationship. Eek!
I'M NOT GOING TO LIE. ALTHOUGH IT HAS ITS PERKS, SINGLE LIFE IS ROUGH.
I was lonely and desperately wanted to find Mr. Right but had no clue where he was. I was sick of trying to meet guys at crowded bars and going on mediocre dates. I was sick of being the third wheel.
I FREQUENTLY QUESTIONED IF SOMETHING WAS WRONG WITH ME, AND STARTED TO WONDER IF THERE WAS EVER GOING TO BE ANYTHING BETTER FOR ME OUT THERE.
One day, I listed out all of the qualities I wanted in a man (literally), and realized that this "ideal" man really had his life together. Not to mention, he was tall, dark, and super handsome...and he had a bad boy look but was actually a caring romantic. Oh, and he was assertive and stands up for himself but treats me like a princess. Sheesh. Things seemed a little bleak, but I had an epiphany.
IF I WANTED A DREAM GUY WITH ALL OF THE QUALITIES I WAS LOOKING FOR - THAT HAD THEIR LIFE TOGETHER - AND WAS READY AND LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP, THEN I NEEDED TO HAVE MY LIFE TOGETHER, TOO!
Of course! I couldn't expect Mr. Perfect to magically rescue me and solve all of my problems when I was jobless, broke, and had no clue who I was or what I wanted to do in life.
Three years later, I was a changed woman. I invested in myself and learned who I truly was. I knew what I wanted and needed in a relationship and knew what I didn't want and what I definitely did not need.
I WAS CONFIDENT, AND FINALLY KNEW HOW TO KEEP THE RIGHT MAN AROUND (AND DISMISS THE REST!).
I completely changed the way I dated and therefore, how guys treated me. I became a pro at navigating the online dating scene and opened my inbox to dozens of emails daily. Although I had lots of suitors and plenty of opportunities to fall into a decent relationship, I held out.
I WANTED THE DREAM GUY. I WANTED THE FAIRYTALE. I KNEW I WAS A CATCH (IN MY HUMBLE OPINION!) AND WOULD NEVER SETTLE AGAIN. I HAD A LOT TO OFFER "THE ONE".
Good thing I did.