When I was single, I stumbled across a quote that forever changed my outlook on myself and relationships. To this day, I still LOVE this saying and live by it wholeheartedly.
The genius Dr. Seuss writes,
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
I’ll add on my own follow up quote, too:
If you like me for who I am – GREAT! If you don’t like me for who I am – EVEN BETTER! That means less time I’ll waste on someone who doesn’t like the real me, and more time I get to spend with people that love and accept me exactly as I am.
A little bold and sassy right?! Feel free to steal it. ;)
When it comes to dating new guys and meeting new people, many women feel the need to put on a ‘front’ or act like a different, “better” version of themselves in order for people to like them.
That’s totally understandable (I’ve even done it before!), but ultimately, it’s going to hurt your chances of having happy, loving, successful relationships.
Of course it’s scary to show people the real you, but what happens if you don’t?
If you convince a hot veterinarian that you love all things furry (to bond over something common and increase conversation), but you’re actually allergic to anything with four legs…that’ll probably end terribly. Either he’ll find out that you lied (unattractive), or he’ll assume that you’re not secure enough to show him who you really are (which is a deal-breaker for high-quality men).
Sure, maybe Mr. Vet doesn’t want anything to do with you after he learns about your aversion to animals, but if he doesn’t want you as you are, then WHY would you want to be with HIM anyways?
And if you didn’t come clean with him for weeks (or even months), look how long you just wasted on a man that wasn’t your Mr. Right in the first place!
Being who you are and saying what you feel doesn’t necessarily mean that everyone will like you and all the boys will flock to you. Actually, there will definitely be people who don’t like you, don’t resonate with you, or aren’t attracted to you. But that’s okay!
If you’re truly being yourself, and you find the people that do like you for exactly who you are, that’s when relationship magic happens.
It’s incredibly freeing to be yourself, not worry about ‘saying or doing the wrong thing’, and be able to express whatever you feel in relationships.
And it is possible to do this. You just have to pull up your big girl pants, stop worrying so much about what other people will think, and rock your authentic self.
Give it a try. I promise, ladies – you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Want even more proof that being yourself (even if you love Harry Potter and The Bachelorette) is insanely attractive to men? Check out this week’s video HERE!
Not only do you get to meet Matt (my prince charming), you’ll also hear his tips for landing a high quality guy and attracting great men.
You’re welcome. ;)
Cheers to being YOU, gorgeous!